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8 Ways to Survive Financially Lean Times
May is Mental Health Awareness Month
Spring Cleaning the Kondo Way


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Weight Loss Journey - for those over 50.

This is going to be the start of regular entries on my personal experience of attempting to lose50 POUNDS.  
I  will share that I have done this once beforeI'm repeating my pattern - my last intense weight loss program was the year before my 50th Birthday - when the light bulb moment happened and I became determined to take off my extra weight.   
I was hellbent and determined and that is what I knew I needed to do for this round.
My warning is that if you are NOT - then wait until you are - losing 50+ pounds required sustained focus, perseverance, and making a LOT of minute to minute decisions and choices you may not have the ability to do because your life is filled with 1000 other stresses and issues.

8 Ways to Survive Financially Lean Times

This is a share that I have been living through.   I know the anxiety, pressure and shame of not having 'enough'.   I know the frustration of having to say 'no' to almost everything.   I know the way to make bad decisions about money.  I know how quickly the best of budgets can be blindsided by external forces that magnify a stressful situation into a dark hole of hopelessness.  
I also know the satisfaction of getting yet another debt paid, feeling proud of handling the insecurities related to financial management and being compassionate about those who struggle daily to simply survive.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month

25 years ago I made the decision to become a Mental Health Counselor.  It was encouraged by a Pastor who saw me working with a couple dozen "Alley Kids" and my own statement of 'its sad that I enjoy what I do for free more than what I do for pay'.    Several of those kids had real mental health 'issues'  -most just assumed they were the 'bad' kids.    I intuitively knew different.
Since then - 1995 - I have been in the trenches of mental illness, addiction, grieving, community tragedies, headline events and the real stories that many don't know, won't know and can't know.


I've been on a kick to "Tidy" - the principal of it is to organize your home bycategory.   
Please make one category every single medication, vitamin, supplement, diet pills, OTC medications.   

Having been on the front line of this horrific drug epidemic that has taken the lives of people I know and left behind even more grieving I know.  I can't emphasize enough to remove any 'extra' drugs that you don't need or are not prescribed to you.  This is not just a teen problem -adults steal medications too!

Spring Cleaning the Kondo Way

Are you interested in Marie Kondo's strategy and process of "Tidying" ?   

I'm going to present my edited way of beginning the process and add my personal experiences and tips,  some are not in her book - but helped me achieve the ongoing results that I appreciate every day.  

Her first step is NOT cleaning - tidying - tossing - or minimizing - its research!!

I'm going to add my secret - I complemented the process with my Smart Phone APP - by Joseph Clough - who provides hypnosis applications.

2 Years After TIDYING -Spring Cleaning 2018!

For those of you who tend to be inspired to 'Spring Clean' when the weather warms up this share is for you.

I will also encourage you to read my other Blog entries about "Tidying" - that I posted as I went through the process 2 years ago - and bear with me if I repeat myself.   

If you have not heard of this book and its principals and strategies- this is the book and author it is based on.    I cannot repeat or express enough that going through the entire process is truly life changing.

Real Tips for Getting Ready for College

Are you anxious yet excited about starting college??  

 Having been through the experience of leaving home to attend college 8 hours from home I understand the anxiety that comes with the project.  Now as an experienced counselor I see how stressful it is and want to offer some specific tips that will help you get through the first year.

·        Spend the Summer READING– you can do it on your phone, use ‘real’ books or google on amazon or local library to get more versed in the subjects you will

The Bi-polar Experience - When to Get Help

Low Risk / Symptoms Present
Loss of sleep
Not able to sleep 24 hours
Staying up and out late despite other responsibilities
Not able to sleep 2-3 days
Feel and stating they feel ‘wired’
Irritability is obvious to others, may include verbal abuse
Irritability is inappropriate – now angry and violent.

Desire to be impulsive:
Using drugs –more of legal or illegal
Speeding/ Reckless driving
Sexual acting out

Medium Risk/ Symptoms Obvious:
Following through with impulsive thoughts:

When to Seek Help from a Professional

 You should get evaluated by a professional if you've hadfive or more of the following symptoms for more than two weeks or if any of these symptoms cause such a big change that you can't keep up your usual routine.....
When You're Depressed...
  • You feel sad or cry a lot and it doesn't go away.
  • You feel guilty for no reason; you feel like you're no good; you've lost your confidence.
  • Life seems meaningless or like nothing good is ever going to happen again. You have a negative attitude a lot of the time, or it seems like you have no feelings.

What to Do This Summer

First put down your phone.    Really.  

Anyone born before the 80's knows that you really can have a summer without having a phone attached to your ear or palm.   We survived.  We had to be creative!   We also survived all those 'horrific' events of bug bites, poison ivy, seeing snakes, catching frogs, trips in the back of station wagon or pick up truck, discovering swimming holes, learning how to dive into mucky waters, card games, board games, Jarts(!), Kick the Can, numerous bikes (without motors), dragging our butts home bleeding from falls, jumps, and dares where a bunch of bandages, grilled cheese and tomato soup cured the pain .
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