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Are You Asking Your Kids the Right Questions or Too Busy Lecturing?

I've heard that 'one sentence can save/change your life' . . . that reading, hearing or asking the right question can have a very powerful impact on a person's awareness, perception or attitude.  What I notice too often, is how adults - even to their adult children,  rarely ask questions when things go 'wrong' - they get on the lecture circuit - diatribe -I'll talk - you listen noise.  

Recently I watched a 'Ted video' on Huffington Post that was a 14 year old male home schooled student and he offered this very simple presentation:  Stop asking kids 'what do you want to be when you grow up' and start asking: 'What makes you happy?'   

As an adult reading this - do YOU know specifically what makes you happy?  When I ask this question of clients I am very often surprised how difficult it is for them to respond.   This very simple question.   
We're hearing the 'Happy Song' almost daily yet we don't know that it is that makes us happy!
If you can answer this question easily - I bet you are more satisfied with your life than many.  If you can answer this question with little hesitation then I also bet that you have incorporated what does make you happy into your daily routine, schedule, life.   You actively prioritize your life to support being happy most often.   That is also what 'good self-esteem' LOOKS like.  Many don't realize the connection of the two.  

If you have discovered, embraced and demand your own happiness it means you value your own time and therefore value yourself.   When I describe to clients what 'good self-esteem' is I encourage them to EDIT.   Edit IN what makes you feel positive, empowered, satisfied, proud, loved, wanted.  Edit OUT that 'stuff' that burdens, depresses, exhausts, drains, stifles or angers you.  Life is SHORT.  It can end in a moment.  Events can cause lives to stop on a dime.  Will you be regretting or be enjoying a life 'well lived'?    

So start today - ask your kids, loved ones, yourself - What makes YOU Happy?  and set up your life, family, career, time to embrace it more often!   

1 Comment to Are You Asking Your Kids the Right Questions or Too Busy Lecturing? :

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john on Tuesday, October 20, 2015 7:09 AM
nice post
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