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NETFLIX - Marie Kondo's "Tidying Up" Series

What a way to start off a NEW year!  
 After dealing with the reality of 2018 - seeing Netflix created a series featuring Marie Kondo and her 'life changing' method of 'tidying up' - I was excited.  
I will start with the fact that (if you didn't read any of my Blog entries of my 2015 experience of going through her process) I already completed her entire process - every single category in my home was covered.   Believe me, I was a skeptic - in the beginning of her book she claims that using her system will result in long term change - and you will NOT go back to your old habits.

8 Ways to Survive Financially Lean Times

This is a share that I have been living through.   I know the anxiety, pressure and shame of not having 'enough'.   I know the frustration of having to say 'no' to almost everything.   I know the way to make bad decisions about money.  I know how quickly the best of budgets can be blindsided by external forces that magnify a stressful situation into a dark hole of hopelessness.  
I also know the satisfaction of getting yet another debt paid, feeling proud of handling the insecurities related to financial management and being compassionate about those who struggle daily to simply survive.


I've been on a kick to "Tidy" - the principal of it is to organize your home bycategory.   
Please make one category every single medication, vitamin, supplement, diet pills, OTC medications.   

Having been on the front line of this horrific drug epidemic that has taken the lives of people I know and left behind even more grieving I know.  I can't emphasize enough to remove any 'extra' drugs that you don't need or are not prescribed to you.  This is not just a teen problem -adults steal medications too!

2 Years After TIDYING -Spring Cleaning 2018!

For those of you who tend to be inspired to 'Spring Clean' when the weather warms up this share is for you.

I will also encourage you to read my other Blog entries about "Tidying" - that I posted as I went through the process 2 years ago - and bear with me if I repeat myself.   

If you have not heard of this book and its principals and strategies- this is the book and author it is based on.    I cannot repeat or express enough that going through the entire process is truly life changing.

When to Seek Help from a Professional

 You should get evaluated by a professional if you've hadfive or more of the following symptoms for more than two weeks or if any of these symptoms cause such a big change that you can't keep up your usual routine.....
When You're Depressed...
  • You feel sad or cry a lot and it doesn't go away.
  • You feel guilty for no reason; you feel like you're no good; you've lost your confidence.
  • Life seems meaningless or like nothing good is ever going to happen again. You have a negative attitude a lot of the time, or it seems like you have no feelings.

Grieving and Tidying . . .

If you have read any of my previous posts you know by now I'm a big fan of Marie Kondo's "Life changing magic of tidying up" best selling book.   Having gone through almost the entire process - only 'historical documents and photos' are left - but condensed to 2 totes. . . 
I want to encourage anyone male or female to try this process if you have had a significant loss or life transition in the last 5 years.  Some can handle it within 1-2 years of a loss - but most can't - but when you're 'ready' this process is probably one of the best strategies to do what will be 'life changing magic' in a very heart and soul warming way.

#3 - The Religion Behind "Tidying"

Marie Kondo's "The lifechanging magic of tidying" exposes us in "Western" USA to the tenements of Shintoism - a religious faith that is unique to the Japanese. 

Many make the mistake in trying out her book that its based on Feng Shui - it isnot. Lesson #1 - she is Japanese not Chinese!   Feng Shui is Chinese.  You can add or be mindful of the 'laws' of Feng Shui in the process but Marie Kondo's principles are based on a different mindset.  

#2 Life changing Tidying -Magic Weapon

I have to add this share as one of the elements that may have been another secret weapon in my successful journey through Marie Kondo's Tidyingprocesshttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1607747308?

At the same time I discovered her book I also decided to try out smart phone Apps for Hypnosis.  I had been trained to conduct hypnosis but had always been skeptical, especially knowing that if you were clearly resistant to it - it wouldn't 'work' anyway.

Why "Tidying" is Life changing. . .

For those of you who know me personally the last year, many got a chance to actually witness the process of 'tidying' in my life.    Clients saw piles of boxes, neighbors saw bags of trash, strangers saw hauls to the recycling bins, and loved ones saw my physical place transform. 

I can't say enough about the entire process.  As a mental health professional I have to speak up about how it is truly a process that can help in very obvious ways to reduce stress, improve daily life routines, add time into your day for the more important activities, determine new directions, edit out 'noise' that is really in the way of success and is so visual that most can't help but say something positive.

Start the New Year with "Life Changing Tidying" !

 I’m going to try to present Marie Kondo’s process in the way that I experienced it.  I did not video tape any of it – probably should’ve – but took plenty of before and after photos so you can see what it looks like and capture how it’s done.

The first step is NOT clothing!   Many think it is.  The first step is actually a more quiet, reflective step.  I did it by spending hours on the site: Houzz -http://www.houzz.com/but you can also try out Pinterest
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